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Counselling Lodge

Sad

 

Anxious


Feeling Numb

Can't Sleep

Depressed

Scared

Lonely

Feel  Misunderstood

Relationship Issues

 

Physical Pain

Not enjoying life

Counselling can help

 

About me

Rebecca Clarke BSc. Dip. MBACP

 

It’s important that you find a counsellor that you are comfortable and relaxed with to be able to speak freely to get the right help for you.

 

Below I give you some details about myself and how I practice

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I am a member of the BACP (British Association for counselling & Psychotherapists). This means that I abide by their Ethical Framework ensuring that I provide a professional and ethical service, for you to be assured that the service you are getting is legal, safe, and confidential, providing you with a very high standard of care. 

 

I have 20 + years of experience, working within the Mental Health services, with extensive experience of a wide range of issues. The therapy I offer is based on an Integrative approach, which means that I tailor the therapy to suit your needs, integrating different theoretical models to do this. 

 

I offer a private & confidential space, which is warm, safe and supportive, where you can learn & explore your thoughts, behaviours and feelings. I will not judge you or give you advice but help you gain some understanding and empower you to find solutions that are suitable for you. 

 

My experience has taught me that life can be challenging and that we can all benefit from support at times. We can become ‘Stuck,’ ‘Overwhelmed’ and find life & relationships, too much to cope with. Counselling offers us the opportunity to expand and deepen our awareness in order to live more fully in life and in our relationships, which in turn brings balance and harmony. I believe each client is unique and has the inner resources to make any changes that may be necessary in their lives. My approach is that we work together to enable you to discover how to go about making those changes.

Areas I Specialise

 

Individual Relationship counselling, Anxiety disorders and Depression.

 

Anxiety & Stress  

 

If you feel as though your anxiety is consuming your life, making you feel debilitated at times and holding you back from new opportunities. I can offer the necessary help in managing your anxiety.

 

Anxiety can also take negative control over your relationships, both at home and within the workplace. I can offer you the support you need to reduce the control anxiety has over you, by working together we will establish the cause and triggers of your anxiety disorder.

 

Relationship Issues

 

Relationships can be one of the most fulfilling and pleasurable areas of our life. However, occasionally our relationships can become full of tension, resentment, hurt and conflict causing pain and upset. Difficulties in relationships are one of the most common causes of unhappiness and often one of the main reasons that bring people to therapy.

 

Common problems:-

 

  • A feeling of not being listened to.

  • Feeling unappreciated or taken for granted.

  • An angry or aggressive partner.

  • A partner who sulks or lacks intimacy.

  • Different values around children and money or who spend too little time together.

  • Feel numb

 

Relationship issues with family, such as parents or siblings can cause tension, resentment, hurt and conflict and this can be just as difficult to manage at times as issues within your intimate relationships. This can also apply to issues with friends and work colleagues. Where you find yourself at the same point with people time and time again.

Anxiety and relationship counselling

Anxiety describes a set of emotions and physical sensations experienced during periods of worry about recent or future events. We all feel anxious from time to time but ongoing anxiety can stem from distressing experiences or harmful relationships in the past or present.

Relationship counselling for anxiety can help you to understand the root of your feelings of panic and their link to past/present relationships.

Counselling can also provide coping mechanisms and strategies to use in situations that are likely to trigger panic attacks/anxiety.

Anger and relationship counselling

Feelings of anger are a perfectly normal and natural emotion. Excessive and uncontrollable anger, however, can be problematic for you, your family and your relationships socially and in the workplace.

Some individuals internalise this excess anger which can lead to issues such as addiction, self-harm or depression. Those who do not can find themselves breaking or compromising relationships with friends and family.

Conversely, relationship problems can be a trigger for anger management issues which unchecked can lead to abuse and the irretrievable breakdown of relationships.

Relationship counselling for anger can help individuals understand the source(s) of their anger, develop strategies to cope with the triggers of anger and understand the harmful impact upon their relationships.

Eating disorders and relationship counselling

Eating disorders are a growing issue with potentially life-threatening consequences. Typically eating disorders are characterised by an unhealthy relationship with food.

This leads to extreme behaviour with regards to food and health in general, consequently impacting upon relationships with family, friends and loved ones.

Counselling can help with challenging the thought processes that can lead to unhealthy eating behaviours and tackle the negative impacts upon their closest relationships.

I have experience in the areas below:-

 

  • Stress 

  • Anxiety

  • Relationship Issues/family issues

  • Affairs &  Betrayals

  • Divorce / Separation

  • Low self-esteem

  • Lack of confidence

  • Depression / sadness / emptiness

  • Eating Disorders

  • Trauma

  • PTSD

  • Fibromyalgia

  • Bereavement / Loss

  • Sexual Identity

  • Domestic violence

  • Addiction

... and life in general.

 

 

Face-to-Face Counselling - For clients able to travel to Westgate-on-Sea, Kent.

Face-to-Face Counselling offers a great therapeutic experience of feeling heard in a safe confidential space.

Online Video Counselling - Local or further afield. 

 

Video counselling is an alternative to face-to-face counselling. A video link via your computer, laptop or smartphone allows you to see and speak to me from the comfort of your own home providing you with a safe and secure space to speak with me, your counsellor.

Training /Qualifications / Experience

 

BSc Greenwich University – I have worked for over 20 years in Hospitals, Residential Settings and the Community, offering support and care to people with varying needs.

 

Diploma Therapeutic Counselling & Psychotherapy Level 4 – I have worked in Counselling Agencies counselling clients for short and long term therapy (psychotherapy) for varying reasons.

 

Private Counselling Practice - Present Practice

 

Cert – Gestalt Therapy

Cert – Anxiety – GAD (Generalised Anxiety Disorder)

Cert – Mindfulness

Cert – Working with Abuse

Cert – Trauma

Cert – Eating Disorders

Cert-   Working with shame

Cert – Depression

Cert – Working with & Safeguarding vulnerable Children and Adults

 

Get in Touch

I offer short-term therapy (6-12 weeks) or long-term therapy, (longer than 12 weeks). Therapy is reviewed every 6 /8 weeks to assess whether your focus for therapy is the same & whether you are happy to continue if needed. Intensive therapy is available, this is designed to suit your needs and involves an assessment, with treatment plan drawn up.

 

Initial assessment - Free (30 mins)

 

50 minutes - £50- Weekly, same day, same time. Unless discussed prior. (Online or face to face)

90 minutes - £85  Intensive therapy every 2 weeks (unless otherwise discussed) 

Intensive therapy designed to meet your needs - please contact for details and cost

 

Student Counselling - £35 for 50 mins weekly sessions.

 

I accept Cash or BACS

 

Understandably taking the first step is often the most difficult one to take. Once you enquire, I will contact you via email to confirm that I have received your enquiry. I will then email/post forms for you to read and fill in at your leisure. These outline the terms and conditions of counselling so if you have any questions you can ask me at our first appointment. Our first appointment is a time of assessment, for me to assess your need for therapy so I can see how best to move forward with therapy and for you to see if you are happy to continue with me. I look forward to hearing from you, in the meantime take care.

 

 

 

Contact Details

Rebecca Clarke

Email – rebecca@counsellinglodge.co.uk 

 

Please message with a brief outline of reasons for enquiry.